Paranormal Q&A: How do you know if you're picking up words from a spirit ?Q&A: What About the Afterlife, Heaven and Hell?

Here's a  question that I received via email, and my response. 

QUESTION:   I believe that, in the afterlife there is no "heaven" and no "hell". What we experience after death has a lot to do with what we believe while on earth and, if at death, a person believes in hell and that he or she belongs there that reality will be created by that person. 

ANSWER:  I agree. "Heaven" and "Hell" are man-made ideals. Joining the energies that run through the universe and crossing that barrier from Earth (into the light) can be thought akin to a "heaven" or paradise if you will.  "Hell" is actually being stranded on earth as a ghost, where you can't communicate with the spirits- it's like torture for eternity. 

You don't have to believe in a religion to believe in the afterlife. It's all about energy. 

Energy cannot be destroyed only transformed, and our memories, personality and consciousness become an entity of energy after our physical bodies die. Then we make a choice to stay here on Earth as a ghost or cross into the light- passing the Earthly barrier to join the energies of the cosmos (you can call it heaven, paradise, Valhalla, whatever you wish).

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Paranormal Q&A: How has the Medium field changed since you became involved?

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: How has the field of being a medium changed since you became involved? 
What do you see for the future of this work?

A: The field has changed and has been more accepted over the last 10 years, with some mediums on television. Interestingly enough, my mother's cousin was a medium who I learned help solve crimes with the police in a town in Massachusetts in the 40s and 50s. Mediums used to be balked at, but now police forces around the country have been more open about using mediums for unsolved crimes.  - I think that's a great place for the future of the work.

I also think that mediums who continue to provide messages to comfort living people is a great service and I think that more people are turning to them for comfort. Police  departments will likely continue to use mediums to solve "unsolvable" cases, too.

For Rob Gutro's 8 books on the paranormal, visit Rob's Author page on Amazon. (Click for link to page) All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirits (people or pets), and how Earth bound ghosts communicate. 

Paranormal Q&A: How do spirits exist and can they see us?

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: How do spirits exist and can they see us? Are they energized life forms, and if so, can this be detected by fluctuations in physical fields or sensing technology of some sort?

A: After our physical bodies die, the energy within couples with our memories, personality and knowledge. We make a choice to stay Earthbound at a fixed location - what I call a ghost, or cross over and join the energies of the universe- which I call a spirit.  

  Think of spirits as photons of light - so yes, they can see us. In the paranormal field we use electromagnetic field detectors - similar to what an electrician uses to detect an electrical current.

For Rob Gutro's 7 books on the paranormal, visit: www.amazon.com. All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirit.

Paranormal Q&A: How realistic are the mediums on television? What percent of mediums do you think are truly contacting spirits?

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: How realistic are the mediums on television? What percent of mediums do you think are truly contacting spirits?

Rob and Ruth Larkin, the Beantown Medium

A: I honestly don't watch a lot of mediums or ghost investigations on TV. Producers edit the programs to a fraction of the time filmed, in order to keep the viewer interested. - I've seen Lisa Williams in person (she was on TV for a short time) and she has a genuine gift. The Long Island Medium, Teresa Caputo also has a gift, but sometimes I think she asks for some information.  I'm unsure about the others on TV.
If you're looking for an accessible, and extremely gifted medium I recommend my friends Ruthie Larkin, the Beantown Medium (www.beantownmedium.com) or Barb Mallon (www.barbmallon.com).

For Rob Gutro's 7 books on the paranormal, visit: www.amazon.com. All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirit. 

Paranormal Q&A: How much truth is there to old myths from the pre-industrial era about spirits and medium work

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: How much truth is there to old myths from the pre-industrial era about spirits and medium work?

A: Since the dawn of time, ghosts and spirits have been trying to contact the living. Since I'm unsure what myths you're referring to (there are many) I'll just say that there have always been people who have the gift to sense them. In ancient times, and depending upon the location or the culture, those people were either revered as gifted or executed as sorcerers.

Cave paintings by indigenous Australians date back 28,000 years, some depicting skulls, bones, spirits and the afterlife. Other cave paintings in Indonesia date back a further 10,000 years!

Of course, today, we know that mediums are gifted and use their abilities to help others.

For Rob Gutro's 7 books on the paranormal, visit: www.amazon.com. All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirit. 

Paranormal Q&A: What is your view on exorcisms and the Christian view of spirits?

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: What is your view on exorcisms and the Christian view of spirits?

A: First, I don't believe in "demons." I think that what we call demons are just life forms in spirit from other solar systems that made their way to Earth. Like wild animals that get defensive, other lifeforms that don't know us would get defensive and perhaps take over the body of a living person.

The concept of demons was conjured up to frighten people into behaving.  Exorcisms work on the principal of positive emotional energy, not religion. When a holy man, who are generally good of heart and has a lot of positive energy, tries to expel a ghost or spirit who is a bad person with a lot of negative energy, if the positive energy is strong enough, it will dispel or move the negative energy out (as a scientist, I believe it's all about energy).

Lessons Learned from Talking to the Dead

Positive emotional energies are faith, hope and love. Negative emotional energies are fear, anger, depression, anxiety, hatred,. - It's because of positive emotional energy that prayer works (from any religion or non-religion)- It's the projection of faith-energy.  So, you need not be a priest or Christian to expel a bad ghost or spirit from someone  - and possessions are  rare.  

My book "Lessons Learned from Talking to the Dead" has a chapter on "demons." 

For Rob Gutro's 7 books on the paranormal, visit: www.amazon.com. All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirit. 

Paranormal Q&A: What are some things people can do at home to amplify their connection to the spirit realm?

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: What are some things people can do at home to amplify their connection to the spirit realm?

A: People need to trust their feelings of their surroundings. Positive emotional people can tune in much better than negative people. Positive emotions, love, faith and hope - remove blocks from getting in touch with loved ones in spirit (who have crossed over).   Also, meditation or just sitting in a quiet place, even in the shower (where I get a lot of messages) when I'm at peace.  Play soft instrumental music, think of peaceful settings. Relax your body and mind. Those things help amplify the connection.

For Rob Gutro's 7 books on the paranormal, visit: www.amazon.com. All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirit.

Paranormal Q&A: What advice do you have for parents of kids that can talk to spirits?

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: What advice do you have for parents of kids that can talk to spirits?

A:  Children can see Earthbound ghosts or spirits who have crossed over (like their grandparents for example) because their logical minds have not yet developed.  

Acknowledge their "friend" and ask them details. Ask for a name, and what the ghost or spirit looks like.  If you recognize the description of the person or pet in spirit (or ghost)  and they were good in the physical, don't discourage your child from talking with them, but always tell your child to share what they learn or talk about. 

If it's an Earthbound ghost, it may be someone who lived in the house previously, or someone who stayed behind because they regret something they did in life and were afraid to cross over.  They could be a good person, or a bad person- just as they were in the physical. - So if you ask your child about the ghost person, have them describe their personality and appearance. Ask if the child is afraid of them or likes them. If the ghost makes the child uncomfortable, then call a paranormal group to try and cross the ghost over. 

If it's the spirit of a loved one, they're just coming back to spend time with the child and looking over them. 

For Rob Gutro's 6 books on the paranormal, visit: www.amazon.com. All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirit.

Paranormal Q&A: What causes a spirit to linger in this realm? How common is this?

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: What causes a spirit to linger in this realm? How common is this?

A: Ghosts are the entities who choose to remain Earthbound. Spirits have crossed over into the light. I made that distinction in my breakthrough book "Ghosts and Spirits" because they're not the same. It's "Location, location, location." 

As for what "causes" people's or a pet's ghost to linger in this realm - it's actually personal choice!    Some people stay to try and "help" grieving family members (but Ironically they can only do this if they cross over and become a spirit), or they may have unfinished business... or they may be seeking forgiveness for something they did to hurt someone. Or if they're deeply religious, they may fear the other side (because we have an awakening when we die, which is a life review of all good and bad things we've done).   

Learn the story of the "ghostly face in the orb" in my "Lessons Learned" book

There are many more reasons, but it's an individual choice. My advice to everyone - Cross Over ASAP!  Lingering as a ghost is like living in an eternal purgatory of sorts because they can't speak to spirits, and only a medium (who is needed to cross them over).

It isn't common for people to stay as ghosts. I would say that 95% cross over. Paranormal investigators and mediums are called to help the other 5% cross (because for some reason, after they're a ghost for a short time, they lose the ability to cross over).

For Rob Gutro's 6 books on the paranormal, visit: www.amazon.com. All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirit.

Paranormal Q&A: What is one of the most astonishing things you have experienced in your career?

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: What is one of the most astonishing things you have experienced in your career?

A: It's difficult to pinpoint one thing. In short, a couple of contacts and messages that stand out are my dad's spirit communicating at his wake and funeral (where I proved to my family I was talking with him); a paranormal investigation that turned into a double murder investigation where we found 2 ghosts in a home, the many signs and messages from my dog Buzz in spirit (who inspired me to write my first book), a dog named Buddy who gave me details about his favorite place overseas including his grandmother's name and pronunciation!  

Most recently was the ghost of George Boleyn who walked me around a castle in England (in my latest book).  - Really, every message is amazing to me because it takes so much effort and energy for a spirit or ghost to convey them.

For Rob Gutro's 6  books on the paranormal, visit: www.amazon.com. All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirit.

Paranormal Q&A: Can Negative People Affect Paranormal Investigations?

As I've noted in my books, Earth-bound ghosts both absorb and emit negative emotional energies like

fear, anxiety, depression and anger in addition to the physical energies like heat, light, water and electricity. So, recently I saw a question about if someone is doing a paranormal investigation and someone else is a pessimist, has anger issues or is depressed, is it possible to affect the investigation. Here's the question and my response:

QUESTION: Can a negative person in a paranormal investigation give off enough negative energy to give misreadings that a ghost is present?

ANSWER: No. Negative energy can be felt from ghosts, and also from living people, but the living during an investigation don't linger in one spot long enough to leave an imprint that can be mistaken for a ghost. However, sensitive people will pick up on a living person's negative energy, but they can distinguish it from a ghost's negative energy.
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MORE PARANORMAL Q&A? - check out Rob Gutro's "Lessons Learned from Talking to the Dead" and "Ghosts and Spirits" - both available in paperback and E-book on Amazon.com. 

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Paranormal Q&A: What do you think is the difference between ghosts and spirits?

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: What do you think is the difference between ghosts and spirits?

A: That question distinguished me from others in the paranormal community. There are differences and similarities between ghosts and spirits.

After our physical bodies die, the energy within couples with our memories, personality and knowledge. We make a choice to stay Earthbound at a fixed location - what I call a ghost, or cross over and join the energies of the universe- which I call a spirit.

Rob's breakthrough book

Both entities use energy to manifest and let us know they're there and give messages . Think of either entity as a lightbulb needing a charge to light up. They both use physical and emotional energies. Physical energies include: Heat, light, water and electricity. Negative emotional energies are only used to strengthen ghosts, and they include: fear, anxiety, depression and anger. Positive emotional energy such as love, faith and hope enable spirits to strengthen.

Ghosts, despite their personalities emit negative energy, and cause the living to experience discord in their actions with other living people. That's why you shouldn't live with a ghost.

For Rob Gutro's 6 books on the paranormal, visit: www.amazon.com. All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirit.

Paranormal Q&A: Do you ever get hired from someone in the spirit realm?

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: You have clients in the human world that hire you to talk to their loved ones, do you ever get hired from someone in the spirit realm?

A: I actually don't have clients in the human realm, because I don't accept money for any short readings I give (and I have given countless readings via email since 2010!). But to answer your other question, people and pets in the spirit realm (or earthbound ghosts) "hire" me all the time to pass along messages. Ghosts usually want help to cross over (because once they decided to stay, they're stuck for some reason). Spirits who have crossed usually want to let their loved ones know they're very much still around.

Paranormal Q&A: Is this something that you practice constantly?

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: Is this something that you practice constantly, or do you only do medium work when it is called upon?

A: Good question!  I don't practice. Ghosts (earthbound) and Spirits (who crossed over) come to me when they come to me.  

Ghosts of England by Rob Gutro

The only times I actually focus to tune in is when I get emails from people who find me on-line or have read my books and ask me about someone (person or pet) who has passed. Then I concentrate. 

Same as when I go into a private residence on a paranormal investigation to try and help the ghost. Otherwise I can usually block the messages out when I get preoccupied or concentrate on something. The exception however, was during my two trips to England where there are a bevy of ghosts from history and many of them called to me and gave me messages and clues to their identities and why they were still lingering on Earth as a ghost. I wrote about that in my new book "Ghosts of England: On a Medium's Vacation."

For Rob Gutro's 7 books on the paranormal, visit: www.amazon.com. All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirit.

Paranormal Q&A: How do you know if you're picking up words from a spirit ?

Each week, I'll answer a question about the paranormal, whether a general question, or one about human or animal ghosts (Earthbound) or spirits (crossed over). Here's this week's question: 

Q: How might one know, if they're really picking up words from a spirit (or loved one that has passed),or if it's all in their mind? (maybe because they knew this person so well)...

  

A: Good question! Spirits (those who crossed over as opposed to ghosts who chose to remain Earthbound) usually come around on birthdays, anniversaries or holidays (and sometimes a week or two away from those events). So, if you "hear something" that you think may be from spirit, check if one of those special times is near.

   Spirits will also tell us a word or give us a clue about something we would not know about, forcing us to ask someone else they know to make sense of it. Messages from spirit, and mediumship are puzzles that we have to put together.

  Also, if you find yourself suddenly thinking about something that is tied to someone in spirit, it's likely that the spirit influenced you to think about it out of the blue. Spirits can also influence us to drive down different streets at a given time to avoid an accident.

   Try to think back, too, to see if someone mentioned the object recently, because that may trigger the word in your head. If that's the case, it's not a message from spirit, just something you're remembering.

For Rob Gutro's 6 books on the paranormal, visit: www.amazon.com. All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirit.

 Rob Gutro's latest books "Ghosts of England on a Medium's Vacation" and Kindred Spirits are available in paperback and E-book on Amazon.com. 

Paranormal Q&A: Sensitivity to Spirits and Ghosts

Many people are sensitive to spirit and some don't acknowledge it. Sometimes, being sensitive to spirits or energy (even emotional energy) can strongly affect people. For example, if you're around someone who is a negative person and you're sensitive, after you leave them, you may feel physically and mentally exhausted. That's an example of what energy does to a sensitive person.
  The following email came to me from someone who is sensitive and may also be experiencing a haunting. If you believe you are experiencing a haunting, please contact your local paranormal group (search in Google under "Paranormal group" and enter your city and state). Hauntings that are adversely affecting living people need to be managed and cleared.

EMAIL: 

Hello  A friend told me to search the Internet about sensitive people and I found your website. 

   I see dark and white shadow people, dream and feel things. I have had a lot of things occur in my apartment that are disconcerting. For example I have awoke to find curry powder, ice cubes or spoons on my floor. 

  Recently there has been a dark figure hanging from my 8 foot high ceiling fan, but disappears as I fully enter the room. 

   I've experienced things since my father and grandfather has died at age 5. I saw them during the day and night. I felt like they tried to drag me back to their grave, awoken with bruises and I started to sleep walk. My mum took me to a children's hospital and they gave me dream suppressors. That is what was told to me. They helped until I turned 12.

MY RESPONSE:

  You have high sensitivity, and are likely a very emotional person. Your father and grandfather's spirits were not likely trying to hurt you, but trying to protect you. Your nightmares were likely from a fear of death at a young age. I had similar scary dreams after my relatives passed. I kept dreaming of graves. But remember that dreams are a way that spirits (not Earth bound ghosts) can give us messages. 

    More importantly, there may be a ghost in your home and it sounds like it needs to be cleared out and crossed over. Contact a local paranormal investigation group and have them do an investigation- tell them you believe you have a ghost in the home and need it to be cleared. 

   Paranormal groups should not charge for services- if one does, go to another. 

- It seems as if you need to purge your apartment of any earth-bound ghosts.  

*NOTE: I did a previous blog about sensitive people: 

http://ghostsandspiritsinsights.blogspot.com/2010/06/negative-energy-and-sensitive-people.html

FOR MORE Q&A ABOUT GHOSTS AND SPIRITS - check out my book "Lessons Learned from Talking to the Dead" by Rob Gutro. I wrote the book to address many questions about the paranormal. 

Paranormal Q&A: How do you know if you're picking up words from a spirit ? Q&A: Is there a Length of Time for a Ghost to be Earthbound?

Recently I received a great question about the length of time ghosts stay trapped on Earth: I now think about all of these remote, inaccessible places in the world where people can't easily be helped. Part of me also wonders whether some kind of limit is placed on the length a ghost is suffering in isolation for, only since there don't seem to be any truly ancient ghosts reported.

Q and ;A:  Is there a Length of Time for a Ghost to be Earthbound?

A: That's a good question about a limit of time a ghost may linger. Having been over to England I encountered many ghosts from the 1100s to present day so I do know there are many ancient ghosts around.
   The reason why there are not a lot of ancient ghosts is that when some entities cross over into the light other ghosts follow. When  light opens, it's a doorway to the other side, and ghosts can often sense peace there. So, it would make sense to me that Earthbound ghosts would follow others into the light. I get the sense that it happens often in hospitals, prisons and cemeteries where the light can often be found.
   There are, however, exceptions. The ghosts who choose not to go into those doorways of light likely stay behind for their original reasons like fear of the other side, or being happy in their earthly residence. It all comes down to individual choice.

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For answers to questions about spirits or ghosts, check out the updated "Paranormal Answer Guide" - in my book "Lessons Learned from Talking to the Dead" by Rob Gutro. Available on Amazon.com in paperback and E-book. 

Paranormal Q&A: Can Spirits Send Scents as a Sign of their Presence?

In today's Q and A you'll read about a spirit who sent a sweet smell. Spirits have the ability to  convey scents to let us know they're around. It could be a floral scent, perfume, baked goods, or anything you would connect to them.

Q: Hi, my husband was only 47 and he just passed away in October. I decided to cremated him but I Don't know if he wanted that..I have his ashes at home in our room where he passed, but I only got a strong sweet incense type smell a couple days after he died. I didn't got any more signs,and I don't know if he is very disappointed on me because I'm being in some how peaceful state that I don't understand. ..I want the best for him, and I don't know if keeping him at home is maybe bother him. I also felt signs in my home before he passed and I thought there was another energy in the house..Please help protect my husband. What is the best for him to be truly free and in peace. I LOVE HIM 

A:  The sweet smell you encountered was your husband's approval of having him cremated. He's well in the afterlife, and around you, protecting you and keeping you safe. Spirits can generate a scent to let us know they're around or if they approve or disprove of something we've done. Since it was a sweet smell, it's a sign of approval and love. 

Paranormal Q&A: Can Mediums Connect Far Back to an Ancient Ancestor?

As a medium, I love questions about the afterlife, and try to share the knowledge of what I have learned. This week's Q&A is about whether mediums can contact ancient ancestors. 

Question #1:   Are there legitimate mediums who CAN connect with people or spirits who go that far back into a person's history?  

Answer:  Mediums can only go back a generation or two. Why? Because once everyone has passed that someone knows in the physical world, then they reincarnate!  So, they're living a new life and their previous life has been suppressed. Because their soul becomes that of another living person, there's no way for a medium to reach them. 

Question #2  What about connecting to  family that would love you if you had known them?  

Answer: That can certainly be done if the family member is not from several generations back (and has reincarnated). I know that the grandmother I never met in life has come to me. 

For Rob Gutro's 6 books on the paranormal, visit:www.amazon.com. All of Rob's books were written to help explain the paranormal, and teach readers how to find signs from spirit.

 Rob Gutro's latest books "Ghosts of England on a Medium's Vacation" and Kindred Spirits are available in paperback and E-book on Amazon.com.