People who have urns in their homes with ashes of people or pets may get spiritual visitors, but they
are NOT ghosts. As I explain in my books "Lessons Learned from Talking to the Dead" and "Ghosts and Spirits," spirits (who have crossed over) of our loved ones can be drawn to their ashes, because their ashes contain a small amount of residual energy.
Ghosts are earth-bound and usually stuck to the places they choose to dwell. Spirits (human or pets) who cross over into the light, can come back to earth and visit their loved ones any time they have something to say. Having their ashes in the house gives the spirits something extra to be drawn to. That doesn't mean you need their ashes to have them visit you. Most people and pets are buried or cremated and spirits only visit their gravesites when a loved one comes to pay their respects. The living person's emotional energy of love gives strength to the spirit to draw them there.
One woman told me that she has ashes of her cat, and sensed that cat several times. My own puppy that passed has come back to me many times, and I have his ashes in the house. Years ago, a roommate had ashes of his mother in the house and she appeared in the house who appeared as a dark shadow in the apartment.
So, urns containing ashes can be a draw for spirits to come back from time to time and visit but its a minimal draw. They come back because because you love them and they love you. All they need is love.
But that shouldn't prevent you from burying the ashes. Spirits of loved ones find us because of the love we share for them. That love acts as an invisible tether of energy that enables spirits to come to us anywhere in the world at anytime.
FOR MORE, CHECK OUT MY BOOKS: Pets and the Afterlife, Pets and the Afterlife 2, Lessons Learned from Talking to the Dead and Ghosts and Spirits, Ghosts of England on a Medium's Vacation, and Kindred Spirits: How a Medium Befriended a Spirit.
ABOUT ROB: Rob Gutro is an author, paranormal investigator and medium with Inspired Ghost Tracking of Maryland. Since he was a child he could receive messages from ghosts or spirits (who have crossed over). As a scientist, he also provides some scientific explanations about how energy is the baseline for the afterlife and the medium that entities use to communicate. *NOTE -Rob doesn't do this full time* **
BIOGRAPHY: Rob considers himself an average guy who just happens to be able to communicate with those who passed. He is a medium on IGT, the Inspired Ghost Tracking Team of Hanover, Maryland. By trade he's a meteorologist, so he tries to explain ghosts and spirits with science. He's had the ability since he was a teenager, sketches out ghosts and get names and other information. He lived in a haunted house, too. In 2005, Rob's late puppy passed and inspired Rob to write his first book. Rob participates in private paranormal investigations, helps ghosts cross over, and has provided countless messages from people or pets as ghosts or spirits.
** BEST SELLERS- Rob's books have reached "best-seller" status on Amazon.com in various paranormal categories. All are available in paperback and E-book on Amazon.com
***DOG RESCUES - Rob has volunteered with with Dachshund and Weimaraner rescues since 2008 and is a pet parent of 4 dogs, 3 Dachshunds and 1 Weimaraner. He also prefers doing fundraising lectures for dog and cat rescues! JUST ASK… Rgutro@gmail.com
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ReplyDeleteThank you. BTW- In the Spring of 2014, my next book is called "Pets in the Afterlife" - about how pets can and do communicate with us! - Rob Gutro
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ReplyDeleteThank you for reading! - and in the Spring of 2014, my next book is called "Pets in the Afterlife" - about how pets can and do communicate with us! - Rob Gutro
DeletePet urns would help you to keep the ashes of a lost soul closer to your heart.
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading! - and in the Spring of 2014, my next book is called "Pets in the Afterlife" - about how pets can and do communicate with us! - Rob Gutro
Delete...huhu..that's too scary for me. But that's good also because the even if you loved ones already passed away, you can still feel them. Thanks for sharing this creepy, scary, and informative article.
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It's really not creepy- having loved ones around us to watch out for us and guide us is a great thing!
DeleteI lost my man in April 5 th of 2019 and I have his urn in my room and it feels really wired 2 have his urn with me in my room but I talk 2 him but don't hear his responds yet so it will take me some time 2 know that he is really gone but having his ashes in his urn will help me alot that I have him close by me and I talk 2 him RIP baby I love u always and 4 ever until we meet again������������❤��
DeleteI'm scared now because we have my brothers ashes and I sometimes get scared for no reason and thought maybe he was why
ReplyDeleteNo need to be scared of your loved one! They always visit regardless of if you have their ashes in an urn or not. They're not harmful either. Physical death is just one step in the entire life process. They're still the same person as they were, just without the physical body. You can talk to them and they'll hear you, too. If you didn't fear them in life, no need to fear them on the other side either- just let them know they're loved and remembered.
Deleteit has been a month since we loss my brother, I have been reading if you don't immerse the ashes in water, that demons, spirit and other forms can take the soul and for them to be stuck earth bound. im scard
ReplyDeleteI don't know where you heard that- but it's simply untrue. The souls of our loved ones either cross over or decide to stay here at the time of their passing. There's nothing to "take." - This sounds like a superstition made up to make people paranoid and scared - there is no basis in truth to it.
DeleteI have recently had to euthanize my dog(on September 2, 2014 @ 4:15 a.m.z) due to strong pains from his slow, painful, process of becoming paralyzed from the waste down. He hasn't communicated with me either in person or in my dreams.. Does that mean he is angry with me? I am still very hurt by the process and just recently received his ashes.. I talk to him and feel a sense of joy but don't know whether that's just me or him being near..
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry about your loss. Your dog is not angry at you. In fact, once they're on the other side, our pets know of the difficult choice we had to make on their behalf- one that bring us pain and sorrow. - Be assured that your dog is around you from time to time and that he treasures the love you share. - You may consider reading my book "Pets and the Afterlife" - which may help you recognize signs from him. : http://www.amazon.com/Pets-Afterlife-Rob-Gutro/dp/1497378613/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1395953729&sr=1-1
DeleteWe recently moved to a new house. We are only the 3rd owners and after some research I don't believe there to be any deaths in the house. However a few weeks ago I was awaken by what felt like an extremly light touch on top of my comforter while I was sleeping. I didn't think much of it until this past Saturday I was awoken by the same sensation and again the night after. I tried to explain to my husband that it felt like a cat gently pawing or stepping on the comforter. But he quickly dismissed my thought and said it may have been the knitted blanket at the foot of the bed shifting (which it could've been) But then I immediately remembered that I still have the ashes of a beloved cat of mine who died a year ago that we keep in our bedroom. Could this be her????? If so, I would like to know what I can do to have her move on. Should I bury her ashes? I loved my cat but I don't want to welcome any spirits into the house. Please help!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your experience. Love is positive emotional energy that binds us together with those we love,whether pet or person. Yes, your feeling was very likely your cat that passed. Cats usually provide touch as a means of communicating they are visiting us. She's crossed over, so no need to worry. Whenever a pet passes, our human relatives are usually on the other side to welcome them across. She will only be there from time to time. - As for any other 'visitors" - if you believe you have an Earth-bound ghost in your home tell them to move on. Explain that it is your home, and belongs to you and your family now. - Feel free to message me through facebook with future issues or email me directly at rgutro@gmail.com and I'll be happy to help! Rob
DeleteI got my dog's ashes back today. I also selected a necklace with a heart and some of her cremains were placed inside the locket. I put it on and placed my left palm over the locket and pressed it close to my heart. For two seconds and only two seconds, I felt a soft electrical type of charge. I was shocked and immediately felt peace. I could not believe what I felt so I tried it again and again but there was no other feeling. It was a one time occurrence and I am still in a state of peace and happiness. I believe it was her spirit that was now resting with me on my heart.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your note. So sorry about the passing of your beloved dog. What a wonderful tribute to her to keep some of her ashes in a locket- and a great sign from her that she's still with you! Love is positive emotional energy that binds us together with those we love (whether pet or person) - The energy can be physically sensed some times, and it appears that your girl made it happen for you. Take comfort in knowing she's still with you in spirit. Rob
DeleteMy daughters dog just passed yesterday Oct 11th I am feeling guilty on account I feel like I should of taken her back to the vet. But one minute she was bouncing around then the next she didn't look so good. I just didn't think she was going to pass. My daughter let her out and when she came in she went to her bed. She called her and angel never came she died. I am having a hard time with this. She had a heart murmur and was on medication. I am having her cremated and I want to keep her with me so I can hug her urn. I didn't realize how much I really did loved her but its obvious now because the tears won't stop and I can't eat. I just don't know if she suffered and if she's mad at me because she feels I could of did more for her or I should of known she was dying. This is breaking my heart please help.
ReplyDeleteYou need not feel guilty. Dogs know when they're going to pass, and like people, they make a choice to pass in the presence of someone or pass quietly alone. That's what your daughter's dog did. She made the choice to pass alone and doesn't want you to feel guilty. It was her time and she passed the way she wanted to. - She didn't suffer. It was a quiet, peaceful passing. She laid down, closed her eyes and her heart stopped. She's certainly not angry with you and she is well aware of the good care you took. She does not want you to feel guilty. She passed the way she wanted. Please feel free to email me at Rgutro@gmail.com with any other questions. Sincerely, Rob Gutro
DeleteI totally understand what you're going through. Our family dog developed an illness that required him to take meds and also he became aggressive. One day I couldn't get him to take his med and he passed that night. It's been 6 yrs and I still haven't forgiven myself. I should have tried harder but I didn't.
DeleteI recently euthanized my young (4year old) dog due to aggressive behaviour. I tried for 2.5 years to help him lead a normal dog life... Several trainers, agility, positive reinforcement, socialization, and more. Nothing helped and then he started directing aggression at me when he reached or went over his threshold (which was as simple as seeing another dog about 50+ feet away). I used an animal communicator to see if he was happy or could be happy... The answer was no. He said he was ready to leave and thanked me for all I had done for him. I made the heartbreaking decision to let him go. I have his ashes. A few weeks later, my other dog started exhibiting behaviours as if my (recently deceased) dog was still here...ie concern that he would hurt her or me again. The animal communicator says his energy is still here and he has a message for me, but will only tell me...I have tried to receive the message but have been unsuccessful. I'm mostly concerned because my living dog seems scared at times...
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ReplyDeleteI really love these stories. They fill my heart with some comfort and peace. Please keep up your meaningful work and endeavours. My little dog just died. We only found out she had kidney failure when it was in Stage 4. It took all of two weeks from her diagnosis to her death. She was only 1year 11months. We cremated her and kept her ashes in a beautiful urn in our house along with her other dog who died at almost 17 years of age. (She died 3 years ago). We are devastated by the recent loss. Reading your replies makes me feel so happy that they are in a better place. I pray for them all the time.
ReplyDeleteMy son who was 44 passed on Jan 1st 2013. I felt for the past several weeks I was ready to scatter his ashes which I have and are sealed. I feel secure knowing he is here with me where I live and as he was also a smoker I also smell his cigarette smoke in here from time to time, I don't smoke. My regret is he died alone and I was not with him. If i release his ashes and keep only a small amount for myself will his spirit be totally free. This is the one question that has bothered me the most. I want him to be free and if any chance he wont be if I would keep a small amount of his ashes then I will scatter them all. I need some peace of mind, Thanks
ReplyDeleteHi Shirley - Thank you for your note. You're right that he's still around you from time to time. Spirits use sight, sound, feel and even scent to convey their visits. He doesn't want you to feel regret or guilt for not being with him during his passing. Sometimes people prefer to pass by themselves. Regardless, he's with you now and has given you signs to show you how much the love you share binds you together. His spirit is free. He comes and goes as he pleases and only visits to let you know how much he loves you. - You can keep some of his ashes. Ashes are just remnants of a physical life. His spirit and energy are separated from his ashes. You should keep some of his ashes if you wish, and spread out the rest in a place you think he would've liked. His sign of scent is a strong communication that he visits from time to time.
DeleteWhat does it mean to have three urns in your home and feel there presence ?
ReplyDeleteAshes in urns have a residual energy of the people they once were and when someone who loved them comes near them- it gives them energy to come back and visit! When you sense someone around it means that your love for them helped them come visit.
DeleteHello I need answers my name is Sarah I stay with my brother and are family we have three urns in are home my mother who passed 3 years ago my grandma who passed 7 years ago and my brothers Grampa who passed 2 years ago
ReplyDeleteMe and my siblings are getting sighns of them dropping vases or slaming doors or picking up objects is this a sughn if them trying to communicate with us please let me know !
As I mentioned in the previous answer, ashes in urns have a residual energy of the people they once were and when someone who loved them comes near them- it gives them energy to come back and visit! When you sense someone around it means that your love for them helped them come visit. Those things you mentioned are signs they are trying to let you know they're around.
DeleteI am nervous of allowing my parents to be cremated when that time comes. I was told that cremation causes the soul to burn for eternity.
ReplyDeleteDear Anonymous- Cremation does not cause a soul to "burn for all eternity." Once the physical body is dead, the spirit transitions to energy and either chooses to cross over into the light (heaven/valhalla/paradise/energies of the cosmos) or remain an Earth-bound ghost. The idea of "burning for eternity" was created by man and is unfounded and ridiculous. Cremation is no different from burying people. After all, would people who die in explosions and fires "burn for all eternity" because their bodies were burned to ash? That's ridiculous. It's just a superstition made up by someone or some religion to scare people into getting them to do something other than cremation. In fact, since there is less and less space for physical burials, cremation is a much better alternative. We've cremated our pets who passed and also plan on being cremated. The physical body was just a shell that housed the spirit. It's perfectly fine for your parents to be cremated, better for the environment, for them (think about their physical bodies decaying in the ground, and either way their spirits will move on.
DeleteMom died six weeks ago, and we had her cremated. We have her urn in the living room. We haven't sensed her presence yet, but I'm trying to keep an open mind about it.
ReplyDeleteIf she is inclined to visit, but Dad and I move to another house, would she be able to find us if we put the urn in the new house? Or would she only be able to look for us in the house she'd lived in?
Your mom's energy is connected to you and spirits can go anywhere, so she will always be with you. Only earth-bound ghosts are fixed to a location - your mom is a spirit and has crossed over.
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ReplyDeleteI don't know the first thing about the "after life" All I know is something took MY EVERYTHING from me yesterday and somehow I'm trying to continue. I enjoyed reading what you had to say and plan on reading your book asap.
ReplyDeleteJo - I'm so sorry for your loss. You're welcome to write me directly at Rgutro@gmail.com. Rob Gutro
DeleteHi, my husband was only 47 and he just passed away in October. I decided to cremated him but I Don't know if he wanted that..I have his ashes at home in our room where he passed, but I only got a strong sweet incense type smell a couple days after he died. I didn't got any more signs,and I don't know if he is very disappointed on me because I'm being in some how peaceful state that I don't understand. ..I want the best for him, and I don't know if keeping him at home is maybe bother him. I also felt signs in my home before he passed and I thought there was another energy in the house..Please help protect my husband. What is the best for him to be truly free and in peace. I LOVE HIM
DeleteHello Gabriela- Apologies for the delay in responding! I just saw your note (this was an old blog!). The sweet smell you encountered was your husband's approval of having him cremated. He's well in the afterlife, and around you, protecting you and keeping you safe. He hears you every day (sound and thoughts are energy, and a spirit is energy).
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ReplyDeleteMy mother's dog is afraid of my father's urn but I don't know why.
ReplyDeleteFrom time to time, your father's spirit may visit, as spirits often do. Usually around birthdays, anniversaries and holidays, so that could be part of the issue. If there is anything shiny on the urn, like a silver or gold, that tends to frighten dogs.
DeleteWhen my Aunt spread my grandfather ashes, 3 minutes later I notice white smoke coming from the ground that was a foot away from the spreading of the ashes...... Could that have be his spirit???
ReplyDeleteIt could be a number of things. 1) moisture on the ground scattered as a result of dropping something on it 2) dust stirred up from dropping something on it. 3) OR it could have been your grandfather's spirit coming back to visit to thank her for scattering his ashes as he requested.
DeleteMy daughter's cat was obsessed with my dad and wouldn't leave him alone whenever he was staying at home with us. He passed away 2 months ago and we have his ashes in his bedroom since he came back home to us the cat refuses to go in there even though whenever he wasn't with us when he was alive they went in there. Does that mean anything??? I'm worried that dad isn't at peace and that's why the cats are scared of going near him
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comment. Your cat senses your dad's spirit from time to time in that room, and is confused and scared because your cat can't smell his scent. It's confusing for a pet to see a spirit (as they can) but have no sense of smell (which is harder for a spirit to generate, as it requires more energy). Your dad is at peace, but sometimes, the residual energy in someone's ashes act as a beacon to draw them whenever someone who loved them comes into the room. That would be the love or emotional connection your cat had with your dad. So, ask your dad to stop scaring your cat, and understand that the cat can't make sense of spirit. Also, you could move the ashes out of the room for a day or two and see if the cat will stay in the room. The ashes also emit a small amount of residual energy, which may also be unsettling to your daughter's cat. Either way, your dad has crossed over, and the cat just can't make sense of a spirit without a scent.
DeleteMy Dad recently passed away Aug 5th 2018.. My sister and I want to keep some of his ashes and spread the rest in the ocean where he loved to be. Will our Dad be at peace if we keep some of his ashes? Can they be separated?
ReplyDeleteYes, the ashes can be separated. They really are just remnants of your dad- and your dad's spirit is alive and well. Often people in their wills ask for their ashes to be spread in different places they liked. In spirit, it really doesn't matter to them where the ashes go- because their spirit will be around you.
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ReplyDeleteRGutro, my GIRLFRIEND'S HUSBAND Died 15 years ago, also her father, both the ashes are in the house, she was very close to her husband. I feel a strong presence when I'm here as though his spirit doesn't want me here, or maybe it's just me?
ReplyDeleteSometimes we can sense negative energy within a house. If her late husband was a jealous man, he could have projected that negativity into the walls of the house. However, since he's passed and crossed over, spirits don't show jealousy, as they become aware of the wrongness of it. I would suggest clearing the home of negative energy with sage (you can get some and light it in a bowl, then blow it out, and walk the smoking sage around the house.
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ReplyDeleteI'm Jennie.
About 2 and a half weeks ago my cat became very ill and the vet said he was severely anemic and that a blood transfusion would only prolong his life by a few days before needing another one.
I'm heart broken and feeling tremendous guilt.
For over a year I had spent very little time petting him or allowing him to snuggle with me. I was very stressed out and short tempered.
I never hit him but raised my voice, sometimes yelled when he would come behind me and bang his head against the back of my knee while I was trying to fix his meals.
Well, I had him euthanized because I didn't want him to suffer.
But I'm so angry at myself for treating him the way I did.
I wish he knew how much I love him and that he was my little angel.
I received his ashes today and I will be keeping them close to me. I will talk to him.
I hope he hears me.
Thank you for listening ❤🌈
Hi Jennie- As parents, whether pet parents or human parents, it's normal to be agitated or irritated at behavior of our "kids." I'm so sorry for your loss. But please know that your cat knew what was going on with him, and the stress that you have been under. He read your stress and realized it wasn't from him - he was just there. He also read your energy, and knew that you struggled to make the decision to help him cross. He also knew that his little body couldn't handle another transfusion either. He doesn't want you to feel guilty. You are a great pet parent, and you're being thanked from him on the other side for caring enough to bring him to the vet. He can hear you. He's energy now, and sound and thoughts are energy. He will always be around you! I recommend reading one of my Pets and the Afterlife books to get an idea of what signs he may use to show you he's very much around.
DeleteHi I came across your page as i am trying to understand afterlife. I lost my mom in April 2020 . She was cremated not sure if that's what she wanted. Her ashes are in an urn in my dads living room. Lately my niece and nephew have seen a spirit of a man near where her urn is. What does this mean? We don't know who this man can be.
ReplyDeleteThis is interesting. I want to have the urn for my dad. I want it for my dad's urn for my mom. I remember my dad. I miss him so much. I need to look for urns for ashes for him. My dad passed away last week. I was also able to see urns for ashes at https://minimemorials.com/collections/cremation-urns
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