|find a simple pleasure a day|
You can pray daily, but get out there and make every day count. Enjoy something every day. Hoping that someone else can make your life good is a false hope. The only one who can change your life is YOU.
If you need reinforcements that life is good, here is a suggestion: Keep a diary and write down one thing each day that you like, (even a nice sunrise, or a cup of hot tea or someone you talked with).
We all suffer losses, but the people who passed are always watching over us and are around us. They want us to go on with our lives and be happy... they want us to not dwell in sadness and loss, but go out and taste life to it's fullest.
As we age, we're going to experience physical illnesses, (it's been painful for me to walk on one foot since June), but don;'t let it rule your life! Find good in each day. I have several friends who have had cancer diagnoses, and rather than sit and feel depressed and miserable, they found humor in the little things, they've shared their stories on-line (and one in a great book by Beth Kaufman). They give a person or pet a hug and even in pain, they find time to smile over something. Be that person.
Our loved ones in spirit want US to be happy and find pleasure in the physical life. There are so many things to be thankful for, and so many simple pleasures in life. Look for them and understand that life is a gift.
Happy New Year!