Q&A with Medium Rob Gutro: Will Keeping Ashes Trap my Cat Here?

I get a lot of questions about the power of ashes, and what they can and cannot do with spirit. Here's a
question I received about whether having ashes keep a spirit Earthbound (as a ghost).

 Q: I lost my cat several months ago. She loved being outside in the backyard and so I wanted to put some of her ashes out there but I am scared of tethering her spirit to this house. In the next few years it is very likely we will sell this house and I don't want her to become trapped because some of her ashes are here. Is it safe to bury some of the ashes or will I prevent her from being able to be free?

 A: Since she loved being outside, it's a wonderful idea to sprinkle some of her ashes in the backyard. - That will not tether her to the house. Ashes are just remnants of the former physical body, and don't hold a spirit back. In fact, your cat's spirit crossed over. Ashes have a little residual energy,so they can help draw a spirit back to them, but it doesn't trap them! Yes, you can also bury the ashes. Spirits aren't tethered to them. In fact, spirits have the ability to find us anywhere in the world. I wrote about that in my "Pets and the Afterlife" book, when my puppy Buzz's spirit found us in Puerto Rico when we were on vacation. (you can find my books on Amazon.com).

A Way to Pay Tribute to pets in spirit

Sprite and Buzz's ashes and favorite toys

I receive a lot of emails every week asking for messages from pets who  pass, and thought I'd take a moment to share how we recognize that our pets are still with us. In one of the rooms that we're usually in, we keep the ashes of Buzz and Sprite with their photos and favorite toys. 

backyard markers for Buzz and Sprite

  In the backyard, we ordered plaques that we had engraved with their names and dates and a paw print. They are pictured here with newly planted flowers. *******************************************

The loss of a pet is like to loss of a child to pet owners. The love we share with our pets never dies and author Rob Gutro proves that in messages from pets in spirit in his new book "Pets and the Afterlife 2" and "Pets and the Afterlife." Both are available on Amazon.com

Pets and the Afterlife 2 by Rob Gutro

An Email About a Cat's Spirit and Questions

   Cats and dogs will come back in spirit from time to time to visit us and let us know that they're

connected to us from the afterlife. They'll also be waiting for us there when it's our time. Recently, I received an email about a cat spirit that I thought I would share to help answer some questions you may have.

QUESTION: 

      We recently moved to a new house. We are only the 3rd owners and after some research I don't believe there to be any deaths in the house. However, a few weeks ago I was awakened by what felt like an extremely light touch on top of my comforter while I was sleeping. I didn't think much of it until this past Saturday when I was awakened by the same sensation. I experienced it again the following night.

     I tried to explain to my husband that it felt like a cat gently pawing or stepping on the comforter. But he quickly dismissed my thought and said it may have been the knitted blanket at the foot of the bed shifting (which it could've been). However, I immediately remembered that I still have the ashes of a beloved cat of mine who died a year ago that we keep in our bedroom. Could this be her????? 

  If so, I would like to know what I can do to have her move on. Should I bury her ashes? 

   I loved my cat but I don't want to welcome any spirits into the house. Please help!

MY RESPONSE: 
     Thank you for sharing your experience. Love is positive emotional energy that binds us together with those we love,whether pet or person. Yes, your feeling was very likely your cat that passed. Cats usually provide touch as a means of communicating they are visiting us. 
   She's crossed over, so no need to worry. Whenever a pet passes, our human relatives are usually on the other side to welcome them across. She will only be there from time to time.  
    As for any other human visitors in spirit - if you believe you have an Earth-bound ghost in your home tell them to move on. Explain that it is your home, and belongs to you and your family now. If it is a spirit, like that of a relative or friend who passed, they're likely just visiting.
   Keep in mind that pets, like people on the other side give us messages on special dates- like birthdays, anniversaries (such as adoption or passing dates). So, be mindful of the date your experience happens and that could give you a clue as to who is trying to let you know they love you.
   For more about pets and the afterlife, check out my book on Amazon.com (Kindle or paperback): "Pets and the Afterlife" by Rob Gutro

 

Lessons Learned, Ghosts and Spirits

For Rob Gutro's books: "Lessons Learned from Talking to the Dead," "Pets and the Afterlife" and the new book "Pets and the Afterlife 2" -  visit Amazon.com   (or click this link) 

Pets and the Afterlife 2, Pets and the Afterlife

Q&A: Pet ashes and energy

Here's an email and observation that I received from someone who has their dog's ashes. They
experienced how ashes can connect to the energy of spirit.

EMAIL: 

I got my dog's ashes back today. I also selected a necklace with a heart and some of her cremains were placed inside the locket. I put it on and placed my left palm over the locket and pressed it close to my heart. For two seconds and only two seconds, I felt a soft electrical type of charge. I was shocked and immediately felt peace. 

  I could not believe what I felt so I tried it again and again but there was no other feeling. It was a one time occurrence and I am still in a state of peace and happiness. I believe it was her spirit that was now resting with me on my heart.

MY RESPONSE: 

     What a wonderful tribute to her to keep some of her ashes in a locket- and a great sign from her that she's still with you! When we pass the energy within our physical bodies couple with our memories and personalities and we make a choice to stay Earth-bound as a ghost or cross over into the light/heaven/Valhalla, etc. as a spirit. Energy is the key here and love is positive emotional energy that binds us together with those we love (whether pet or person).

  Sometimes ashes can hold some residual energies.  The energy can be physically sensed some times, and it appears that your girl made it happen for you. Your emotional energy (love) helped "re-energize" the residual energy in your dog's ashes, so you felt a spark.

  Take comfort in knowing she's still with you in spirit.  

For more information about pet spirits, check out "Pets and the Afterlife" by Rob Gutro, available in paperback and E-book on Amazon.com. 

Q&A: What if I don't keep my pet's ashes?

Ashes are echoes of previous life

Recently I received a question about not keeping a pet's ashes. You don't need to feel as if you should- it's an individual choice, and spirit will always find you.

In previous blogs I've mentioned that if you have a pet's or a person's ashes there may be some residual energy attached to them which can serve as a draw or a magnet to attract their energy. However, since most people and pets are cremated or buried in whole form, their spirit still finds us because they are tuned into our energy.

Q: The ashes of my dog were put into a communal cremation, and I am struggling with guilt. What can you tell me?

A: There is no need to feel any guilt or anxiety about placement of her ashes in a communal cremation.  They were just remnants of a physical existence.
  Our pet's and people's souls leave their physical body, usually even just before their physical body dies.  The ashes are just the remnants of a physical shell, but it's not necessary to keep them. They have a small amount of residual energy, but that fades over time, and a connection to them fades over time. What doesn't fade is the bond of energy (of love) you share, that will always keep you connected. 

Lessons Learned, Ghosts and Spirits

For Rob Gutro's books: "Lessons Learned from Talking to the Dead," "Pets and the Afterlife" and the new book "Pets and the Afterlife 2" -  visit Amazon.com   (or click this link) 

Pets and the Afterlife 2, Pets and the Afterlife